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Writer's picture Dr Sally Gray Phd OMC

How to Heal Yourself - Definitively!

Updated: Jun 28, 2023



This question was once my life’s mission. Having dedicated myself to the healing arts & ongoing education in functional medicine, naturopathy & nutrition, neuroscience & quantum science, ‘how to heal’ was the focus of my clinical practice & entire life focus.


How to heal the gut, how to heal the immune system, how to heal the vagus nerve, how to heal genes, how to heal hormone imbalance, how to heal cancer, how to heal fast! These were the questions I asked & was asked every single day for decades.


The Truth is, there is no answer to how to heal the body. Not because true healing is impossible, but it’s the wrong question because it assumes the reality of a problem. AND it's the reality of the problem that never gets questioned. The reality of the problem is at the level of cause which is of COURSE where we want to give our attention.


ALL healing arts are misdirected because they assume the reality of a person (or anything else for that matter) that requires healing. This simply leads to an endless loop of disappointment & dissatisfaction, incomplete 'outcomes', bandaid symptom management & no real answers.


What is contained is this article that has saved, changed, improved & joyously transformed & transcended countless lives. We're here to scrutinize the reality of the problems we 'think' we face, that's the lesson that will serve you in the highest possible way to live in aligned Bliss!


Absolute & definitive healing in the highest, most inconceivable fashion beyond the notion of sickness is everyone’s birth right & inheritance. But everyone who is focused on the body, micromanaging its appearance & biochemistry, location in time & space & relationships with apparent others is missing the mark in the most horrific, cruel & fatal fashion.


The attempt to heal symptoms is to sleep & dream & suffer longer.


When we think we’re a body, there’s really no escape, we're playing the game of life at the level of the problem that Einstein (& all other Wisdom bringers) caution us NOT to do. The root cause of all problems is the acceptance of person-hood as a mind-body complex in which you 'seem' to live. What if 'that' wasn't True? Despite appearances, is there something else going on?


Joel Goldsmith, one of the most influential Authentic Spiritual teachers there has been said this, helping us to understand the appearance of the world as a mesmerism or hypnotism as modern scientists have also shared:

“I know it is not easily understood how there can exist a mesmerism that binds us when we’re not even aware of it. When you are free of that hypnotism, you can see the world as it is and when you’re not free of it, you can only see it from the hypnotized standpoint. For instance, from the hypnotized standpoint, you have a fear of your body; you have a fear of lack. That’s the most natural thing in the world because that’s what the hypnosis does to one. It makes one think that you live as a body, and so you want nothing to happen to that body for fear it’s happening to your life."


Whilst the stirrings of this profound realization were well underway, it wasn’t until my clients would bravely acknowledge their persistent worry, anxiety, fear persisting even after symptoms & conditions were resolved that I finally got the message loud & clear. I'd had my fingers in my ears for some time, it all just seemed to 'big' to navigate & WHAT would it mean for my life's work & business? I was tackling questions that were also founded on the acceptance of a person that isn't real, downstream in a dream. To say that my focus changed is an understatement & whilst everything in my life was rearranged, the prize was the Peace that passeth understanding, the greatest gift there is. This is what I want to share with you because Peace is the portal to the Divine!


I’d specialized in treating chronic health issues, primarily in paediatrics & even where there was the desired resolution at the end of the treatment period, parents were still in despair. The mum who tipped me over the edge, for which I have supreme gratitude, was the mum of a child who had battled & survived into remission, a very aggressive, considered untreatable form of cancer. I worked with this family for several years through the journey & after the diagnosis of remission, all the while watching the mother grow increasingly anxious. It was as if I was watching someone’s life force slowly dwindle, the light was being extinguished at it was obvious.


She finally admitted to me that she can’t remember the last time she felt happy, certainly not for years, not even when given the ‘all clear’ from the medical system. She felt tortured, wracked by guilt & fear. This led me to see clearly how very powerful the mind is (powerful enough to make up a world & believe it!). Despite her child now thriving at the body-mind level, there was a whole other story playing in the mind of this mother, one that led her to see her daughter through the eyes of fear, doubt, shame & guilt & carry this burden in silent secret self-loathing torture.


This was far from an isolated situation & I could see this as routinely common amongst parents facing perceived health challenges with their children. What had clunked in my mind was that perhaps it’s not what we see, but how we see. FAR beyond the prevailing idea of simply changing thoughts & beliefs which is STILL at the level of the problem. Truly understanding that which determines how we see is the level where true service can be rendered. I was called 'there' & there was just no point fighting. In fact when I did relax, Miracles flowed & Mystical revelations poured forth.


True Healing is measured in Peace & Peace without exceptions is the goal of Life. A Peace that has no conditions & NO exceptions. Sickness of the body is a judgement, founded at the causal level on an erroneous assumption & acceptance of identity as a body which is false.


Healing in terms of the world of illusions is impossible & is not a lack of symptoms. Any & ALL True Healing occurs in spite of & despite any 'person', through & NOT from a 'person'. True Healing, the Peace that passeth understanding in any & all experience of Life is inherent in Being, our Essential Nature in Oneness with the invisible Source of Life.


To cut a long story very short so that we can get into the juicy point of this conversation, I left my extremely successful & enviable ‘healing’ practice where fixing bodies is just a game played in the illusion of person-hood & actually prolongs suffering. Yep, I came face to face with realizing I was truly UN-helpful! Moving the chairs around the deck of the titanic can’t stop the ship from sinking & the call to be of True service was taking me deeper than I could ever have imagined.


To persist in deceiving myself that I could heal another person or joining with another in agreement that they need healing in the first place was no longer a game I could play. Revelation of the mechanics of Life showed this to be an impossible lie & I was guided to go deeper. To work at the level of cause rather than effect where bodies appear real but aren’t. I’m here to join with those who are ready to heal to the core & come ‘home’ to Perfect Pristine Wholeness & Completeness, & this has nothing to do with what the body does.


This speak to the understanding of the unhealed healer; healer heal thyself! An unhealed healer believes in error/problems. I was an unhealed healer not only believing in error (opposites in limitation & lack - in this case the impossible reality of sickness of any/all kinds), but I also believed I was personally responsible for healing. I have come to know that "I" of myself am nothing & do nothing. There is a Power we are here to Awaken to, to be held, guided & abide in that guarantees our True Health & Happiness in every possible way & it has nothing to do with a person. It's entirely impersonal, it's everyone's & is in fact the Only Reality. The unhealed healer can't 'see' reality.


Ego's arrogance is legendary & becomes more obvious as you progress on the path of Awakening from the dream of separation. To think that I as a person had the capacity to help or heal another person is the epitome of insanity. RUN from anyone who says they can heal you, that's flat out punching above the weight grade of the dreamer & a symptom of the authority issue. Whilst the authority issue is not the specific focus of this article, it is essential to understand this to accelerate the return to Love. You can find out more here.


To persist in assuming the identity of a person is no big deal, no harm no foul as they say. Nothing dreamed ever affects Reality. We all just suffer from a lack of contextual awareness about the mechanics of Life & when we're ready to stop playing the little game, usually due to epic frustration or chronic illness, we do/will/CAN! The first step in Awakening to the Reality of present moment Infinite Divine Health is to recognize this mistake of learning so that we can learn aright in Truth. Just as Shakespeare said, we've mastered much ado about nothing!


The body that comes with the character you 'think' you're playing is actually impersonal, it has nothing to do with the Truth of You!


A healthy body is not the ultimate goal, it actually has no meaning other than what has been given by the mind. There's something so far greater it's impossible to describe the chasm between 'worldly' thinking & Divine Reality. True Healing is not body related, it's about healing the deception of mind that believes, hook-line & sinker, that the world of bodies is real. Sickness is only of the mind & there is no mind in matter. The body doesn't exist independently from the mind. In fact the body is in the mind rather than the commonly accepted misperception that the mind is in the body. We are not limited by a fleshy meatsuit beyond insane notions held onto.


Sickness is the goal of the dream of separation. A Course in Miracles says:

The ego has a profound investment in sickness. If you are sick, how can you object to the ego’s firm belief that you are not invulnerable? (ACIM, T-8.VIII.3:2-3)


Ego is the game of pretend we’ve been playing, where the purpose of the body has been misperceived & misunderstood. Rather than an end, the body is merely means through which Love extends eternally. Or it is used by ego (the idea of person-hood) for its sick game of ‘getting’ through attack & defense (the cause of all stress) until it appears to die. Sanity would prevent further decisions being made under such a tyrranous regime. But that’s really the point, sanity is lacking where separation thinking reigns supreme & the body is seen as something real to protect & covet. This is the great cosmic joke, to believe yourself to be something you're not & then defend it!


Is it sane to accept a lie without question, simply because you haven’t questioned its reality, & then take action on that lie? We’ve all been suffering from a fatal inability to think & question deeply enough. We’ve dedicated our lives to an illusion & this can be overturned in order to allow True Healing, Happiness, Health, Peace, Fulfilment, Abundance & Joy whenever you decide you’ve had enough of a death wish ‘game’ that has nothing to do with the Truth of you.


You see we play a game of pretending to be something, a character in the show we call the world, that we’re not & this game persists until we question the reality of our perception. Thanks to quantum science of the last couple of centuries & Spiritually Enlightened masters since the dawn of the time-space delusion, we’re told that our experience of life is determined by the quality of the questions we ask.


It really IS the case that the Truth will set you free, the Truth is the healing agent, the Truth of your own Infinite & Limitless Being. You don't need to fullest measure of Truth to heal however. Simply beginning to recognize the Truth & Reality of the Source of All Life as your own Life Essence, Miracles can commence! Don't take my word for it, that's really the point. Truth is everyone's, it doesn't belong nor can be contained beyond, we just 'think' it is. But you, right now, are undeniably in the midst of Life, unleash its potency & BE Happy!


If we aren’t asking questions that expose the cause of perception, we’re literally going nowhere, stuck under the spell of assumptions that drive us, define us & confine us.

I’ve already shared the question that led me to wake up was “what’s behind that”, originally assuming this would continue to benefit the healing of bodies. Only this question took me beyond the body-mind appearance, all the way home to Self-Realization, the One Self, the origin of Life in Oneness; aka the Light of the world.


The assumption that there are bodies to fix is the assumption to be questioned. Because we don’t question the reality of our problems, we’ve made & habituated an un-reality. To the point that we’ve become addicted to person-hood & appearances as determined by the senses of the body-mind complex. We have misplaced our identity & life in the body-mind complex which leads to the endless need to manage this assumed organism until death.

We suffer from a nasty case of crappy mind condition which is relevant in healing because mind is the maker of world you see. There’s no such thing as matter separate from mind, matter is mind & mind is matter. There is no independent ‘life’ so to speak in anything you observe.


You can 'see' this for yourself right now actually. Rather than continuing to give your attention to what you think you know & see through the 'person', what is that which is knowing? When you persist with this line of inquiry, you will make the greatest discovery there could ever be & you WILL win the game of True Life & finally begin to live with a smile on your dial that cannot be budged because it comes from your heart!


Mind is all there is & the answer to ‘how to heal yourself’ is to heal the mind that believes the unreal. The mastery of discernment simply allows the Truth to shine through. The Truth is the healer, restoring ‘right’ mindedness is the ultimate healing elixir. As the ancient wisdom says; “The Truth shall set you free.”


It’s no secret that science has revealed that everything we can observe is merely that, observable, but isn’t what we are. If you can observe it, you’re not it. In our modern world we can dissect the observable phenomena to infinitesimally teeny weeny parts, but we can’t separate the observer from the observed. Let 'this' fact point you 'home' Beloved & unleash your limitless True Power in One. Healing is the least of your Inheritance!


The answers we seek to understand true healing lie at the level of the observer, not at the level of the observed. What we see & experience is produced at the level of observer which fundamentally means that changes at the level of what is observed are futile.


Another way to say this is that the ‘thing’ we’re observing, eg the body, isn’t capable of independent causation so what appears to be happening at the level of the body appearance is an outpicturing from the observer. All that is observed borrows it's appearance from the observer & has no independent existence.


When we follow the thread within to the core, we discover that the common thread in the appearance of the world, is the idea of me. And what I think I am determines the world that is experienced in its entirety. The question we need to be asking in order to heal definitively is WHAT is that 'me' I think I am.


I often say to my clients that you DO know what you are, you just don't realize what you are not & having confused this central issue, you suffer from misperception. Misperception is the only 'sickness' there has ever been & it is only this which veils the Light of Love we seek & crave.


When we address the real cause, which has nothing to do with the body at all, of any concern in life, including the appearance of the body, we are on the right track to heal definitively.


To answer the question, how to heal yourself, the answer is in questioning the reality of a self that needs healing!

The Self that you really are is already Whole, Perfect & Complete, existing in the One True Reality of Spirit. The appearance of a person is built on an unquestioned assumption that leads to sickness & endless suffering of all kinds & at best, hints of pseudo happiness here & there that never really satisfy. In fact the only source of any & all suffering is the acceptance of an impossible identity; ie misperception built on misidentification.


YOU are here for MORE, in fact you already are THAT!


There’s never been a sick person in the history of Life, because there’s never been a person.

To heal the mind of the illusion of separation (separate life) through Quantum Forgiveness is the guaranteed path of definitive healing.


As a by-product of working at this level, I see extraordinary (unexplainable) 'body' healing occur as the mind is restored to its inherent Perfection & the dream of separation is dissolved. Healing the body is no longer the focus of my practice, not even a little bit! In fact, my clients succeed because they let go of all worldly needs & are thus guaranteed Divine Supply beyond worldly desire. Incomparable, extraordinary health, the kind NO mere mortal person can achieve nor attain, is just a guarantee of Oneness!


For as long as we attempt to heal something imaginary (like the body - little personal self concept), true healing is impossible & the illusion of birth & death & reincarnation persists. This is WHY groundhog day isn't just a movie but an epithet of human experience.


When we focus on the cause of the appearance of sickness however (identity - what I think I am), recognizing its impossibility in Reality (which requires mastery of discernment), healing & True Happiness are the natural, organic, guaranteed consequence.

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